As a society, we have a tendency to label and sort people into neat categories. We do not just put labels on those around us, as we also turn that gaze inward. Am I lovable or unlovable? Am I worthwhile or worthless? Am I a good person or a bad person? Broken or whole? What happens if you judge yourself and find yourself lacking?
We are so much more complex than any label can do justice to. We are are fluid, constantly shifting and evolving with each new experience and decision. Trying to convince ourselves that we must fit neatly into a box seems an act of futility. When we judge ourselves, we halt the progress of self-acceptance and growth. We take an experience that could be processed and transformed, but instead we distance ourselves from it by boxing it up and slapping a label on it.
Accepting that we are messy, that we thrive in the unwalled no-man’s land of creation and experience, can be a little unsettling. Sometimes that uncertainty keeps us from venturing out of the familiar mental boxes we put ourselves in; but, fear not, your you-ness (whatever you perceive it to be) will not be lost when unconfined. It simply allows us the ability to shift our perspective from being passively set in a limiting belief, into proactively embracing the freedom to create ourselves and our futures - what a powerful gift to give to ourselves!
In this space of infinite possibility, we have the building blocks to shape our reality. We can change the way we see ourselves, and by flipping negative dialogue and thoughts into proactive positive ones, we can create ripples that will change both our present and our future.
Working with a friend and colleague, I was able to see that I had an old belief that I created as a child: I was unlovable. The ripples of that belief extended throughout my life, even though I was unaware that I had formed such a conclusion at the time. I see it in my relationships with family, friends, lovers and with myself. I would tell myself that I was lovable, but that long-stored and half-forgotten belief was still boxed up tightly. It made my assertion feel hollow and shaky.
I was challenged to venture out of the model of lovability I created…to change the way I see myself, to heal old wounds, to be a conscious participant in my evolution. Stepping out of that box releases me from limiting beliefs and allows me to step into my own power. I accept that I am who I am in this moment, and I am creating the future to my specifications. It’s a process, and it’s messy and beautiful.
If you find yourself feeling stuck in a limiting belief, know that you can shift out of it and into something much more empowering. If you want a guide to help you take that step, know that you are not alone and help is available to you. It’s time to start thriving.
Holly Hart is a hypnotherapist & emotional wellness coach based in San Diego who conducts energy healing, hypnotherapy, and past-life journeying services.