Valentine’s Day can be a difficult time of year for those who desire healthy romantic relationships, and do not find themselves in one. It can feel like an unnecessary spotlight on painful emotions, whether you are recovering from a break up, unhappily single, or are in an unhealthy relationship.
While societal messaging is thankfully opening up to include a variety of more inclusive dynamics, our cultural messaging gives us a general relationship blueprint to find one human, generally of the opposite binary gender, whom we desire sexually and romantically to spend the rest of our lives with.
Alas, this cultural vision of an “ideal” normative future, which is shown to us repetitively in movies and literature, is not one size fits all. It simply doesn’t work for everyone, and we are beautiful in our diversity!
Unfortunately, many of us feel pressure to fit the pre-formed narrative of how we should live our lives. We may find difficulty accepting who we truly are and what we truly desire for our lives. We might even harbor anger, self-blame or guilt for who we are and what we want.
The good news is that it’s ok. It is ok to embrace the painful emotions and feelings that come up around relationships – they are telling you that your needs are not being met and that something needs to shift.
Regarding your relationships do you experience the following?
When these painful emotions and feelings pop up in your relationships, you have an opportunity to process and heal them – to heal the roots of them, so that you can nourish a healthy foundation that will bear the fruit that you desire in your love life.
By digging in and shifting our relationship with ourselves, we show others how we need to be treated in order to thrive. Self love breeds more love!
This Valentine’s Day, let’s treat ourselves the way we wish our significant other(s) would treat us. Let’s give ourselves the love that we want to share with others.
If you need help with your current romantic relationship, or just need some one-on-one guidance to create a better relationship with the person you see in the mirror, reach out to me and let’s talk about how to nourish what’s important to you.
Are you looking for an quick & easy way to show yourself some love?
Christine Arylo & Shannon Kaiser of The Path of Self Love created a beautiful poster full of Love Mantras to
start your day off on the right track and foster more self love.
Today I resonated with “I choose to be kind, gentle and patient with myself.”
Which Love Mantra are you drawn to?
Holly Hart is a hypnotherapist & intuitive relationship coach based in Long Beach and conducts intuitive readings, energy healing, hypnotherapy, and past-life journeying services.